The New 5 Day Miracle Diet by Adele Puhn

Author:Adele Puhn
Language: eng
Format: epub
ISBN: 9781448146420
Publisher: Ebury Publishing

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FOOD/SEX

Safe sex is good. Feeling sexy can be exhilarating. Identifying and recognizing your fear of sexuality can be the best discovery in your life. It can turn your fathead—and your life—into a thin, sexy, and exciting one. Making love to a person you love is much more satisfying than making love to a hot fudge sundae. (You can even share one later, as an “Extra”!)

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Fear of Intimacy, or “I’ll Show You. I’ll Eat So Much

That You’ll Never Want to Get Close—and I’ll Tell Myself

It’s All Your Fault. So . . . Pass the Bread Basket. Now!”

Lindsay was insecure and she’d been rejected by many men in the past. But it was difficult for me to see why when she came into my office. Lindsay, as the adage goes, had a beautiful face. She had a good sense of humor and an independent spirit. She earned her living as an editor and was very successful at her job. However, she was too heavy to be healthy. She needed to lose about twenty-five pounds (eleven kilograms).

“Of course no one wants to date me,” she told me after her five days. “Look how fat I am!”

The fact was that Lindsay didn’t want to date. She was afraid of intimacy. During our sessions she began to open up. It turned out that two years ago she’d been in love with a man who’d left her for her best friend. It hurt so much that she vowed she would never start dating again. She decided most definitely that it was not “better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.” As far as she was concerned, if she never dated again, she’d be happy.

However, Lindsay wasn’t happy. Not at all. Underneath her hurt, her pain, and her fear was a loving, giving person who desperately wanted to share her life with someone.

I reassured her and told her to keep going. Six months later Lindsay had lost twenty-five pounds. She was starting to look fabulous; men were beginning to notice her.

Bingo. At our next session she was suddenly in low blood sugar and two pounds heavier—even though she’d managed to be in good blood sugar for all those months!

We discussed Lindsay’s motivation. She identified her fathead issue: She was terrified of getting rejected again. It was like a sign emblazoned on a waving red flag: Better to be fat and distant. Now that she was beginning to date, all her old fears were cropping up—and coming out as a missed hard chew, a bad lunch, a binge at night. We recognized what she could do: Keep going. She talked to herself—and to her good friends—about her fears, and how the past was the past and it didn’t have to repeat itself. She began to concentrate on feeling comfortable with her new look, the great clothes she’d recently bought, the ease with which she could get dressed, and a makeover she had scheduled at a department store. She was also scrupulous in writing in her food diary.

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